Dating a busy person
If you know anything about me, the first thing you probably think of is how busy I am. If I say I'm going to get something done, I promise it will get done.Here are 19 confessions from someone who is incredibly busy that you can probably relate to:1. Highlighting every Monday is the best part and I always have my highlighters.2. Every hour of my day is written down and I cannot make any commitments without it.3. I'm that friend that you probably hate walking around on campus with because I stop to say hi to everyone I know. Chances are, it's on my agenda and I will do it at a specific scheduled time.I get it, I really do, but if you’re someone whose schedule fluctuates, or you’re meeting someone for the first time and they have no clue what your schedule is like, it makes it incredibly difficult for someone to plan a date to see you.If you want to go on dates, but you’re the busy one, either share some of the initiative on date planning, or take it on entirely.That's only because I have been involved in everything. Building Council, Orientation Leader, Greek Life, whatever it may be.18. I didn't have to get so involved in everything, but I love everything I do and I give 110% in all of my activities. Whatever it is, they’re able to recognize that diving into a relationship just isn’t sensible at this point.“Some people may also have been burned in [the past], where their schedule may have wrecked a relationship and may be more cautious as a result,” Durvasula says. D., a clinical psychologist in private practice in Manhattan, agrees.
It might take more effort put into planning for you than it would for the average person, but it’s not impossible.
“We’re looking at two options: One being that there’s reality to it and they’re not willing or able to invest time in a relationship, or the other being that it’s a kind way to deliver the message that they’re not that into you,” Charnas says.
“It’s a clear message either way.”While it can be tempting to want to wait it out—especially if the two of you seem to hit it off—experts say it’s best to cut bait and move on.
If you ever find yourself dating a busy girl who’s not making excuses to avoid you, here are 10 things you need to keep in mind. If she has a personal assistant, then you should know how to pucker up to the assistant to get a copy of at least her schedule for the week.
[Read: 12 effective time management tips for couples] #3 Once you have a copy of her schedule, avoid asking her out on the days when she is the busiest.Watch or play sports together, be competitive in casual games like ping pong – even add a little teasing and sarcasm here and there – and you’ll really ramp up the attraction and interest.